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Santa Muerte, please intercede on behalf of Aubrey (Shorty) Dameron. -Amen
Aubrey Dameron is a bubbly lady who vanished after leaving the house to meet someone. The last person to see her was her mother, who said she walked off into the dark morning. Dameron's case, classified as "endangered missing," is still open. Sadly, she is receiving little to no resources from authorities. As a result, the burden lies heavily on some of her family to find answers on their own.
https://int-missing.fandom.com/wiki/Aubrey_Dameron
"No one vanishes into thin air; someone somewhere has seen her poster & continues to remain silent. Your silence is betrayal." https://www.facebook.com/MissingAubreyDameron
Timeline Of Events
August 18, 2018 (Estimated)
Dameron was living or on a trip with her boyfriend, Jay C. Pierson, in New Mexico. Then Dameron returned to live with her family in Grove, Oklahoma. Pierson moved to Colorado around this time.
Pierson explained that Dameron moved home to treat her alleged drug and alcohol use. However, Pat Smith (Aunt) reports that Dameron was afraid of Pierson, and he threatened her life if she tried to leave him.
Smith and Christian Fencer (Uncle) both mention they thought Dameron moving home was a wrong choice. Jen Byrd (Mother and whose name might also be Jennifer or Alice), Unknown Name (Stepfather), and Tommy, Unknown last name (Brother), all lived in the family home. The three family members all allegedly suffered from methamphetamine use disorder.
https://brenmar71.medium.com/where-is-aubrey-dameron-61eec4709a3
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
https://uncovered.com/cases/aubrey-dameron
https://brenmar71.medium.com/where-is-aubrey-dameron-61eec4709a3
https://web.archive.org/web/20201125163834/https://www.grandlakenews.com/news/20190517/new-leads-arrest-made-in-disappearance-of-grove-woman
https://charleyproject.org/case/aubrey-dameron
December 2018 (Estimated)
Around this time, Fencer and Smith noticed something was off about Dameron, and her social media presence shrank.
https://brenmar71.medium.com/where-is-aubrey-dameron-61eec4709a3
February 25, 2019
Dameron posts on Facebook for the last time with a meme-style post that reads, "You're never too important to be nice to people."
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123
Late February 2019 (Estimated)
Dameron was not reaching out to her family as much, and it was unusual for her to do that.
"Instead of hearing from her every day or every other day, it come to be every few weeks," he said. "It was just it was very strange."
Dameron was reported to have spoken with her mother almost daily, even in New Mexico.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
March 1, 2019
Assault and battery charges were dropped against Dameron for fighting with her stepfather. The charges were dismissed at the request of the family members.
https://brenmar71.medium.com/where-is-aubrey-dameron-61eec4709a3
https://web.archive.org/web/20201125163834/https://www.grandlakenews.com/news/20190517/new-leads-arrest-made-in-disappearance-of-grove-woman
"No one can verify they saw her in the last few weeks before March 9," Fencer said." [Dameron] was either being reclusive or the dates provided were not the correct dates."
https://web.archive.org/web/20201125163834/https://www.grandlakenews.com/news/20190517/new-leads-arrest-made-in-disappearance-of-grove-woman
March 3, 2019, 3:30 AM
Dameron was last seen in the gravel driveway of her single-level family home by her mother. Dameron had told her family, including her brother, that she was meeting a friend and left the house on foot. Byrd (Mother), Stepfather, and Tommy (Brother) were all home residents that morning.
The home is on the outskirts of Grove, Oklahoma, on east 280, which is about 7,000 miles from the Missouri Stateline.
The Charlie Project lists the home as "Off Of 280 Road" https://charleyproject.org/case/aubrey-dameron
Ktul.com lists the home as "east 280) https://ktul.com/news/investigations/hundreds-of-indigenous-women-either-missing-or-murdered-in-oklahoma
It is a rural setting, and the Grove only had a population of around 7,000 without much diversity. They were not near any place within walking distance, which was significant.
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.newspapers.com/clip/101746467/a14-second-page-for-aubrey-dameron/
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
https://fox5sandiego.com/news/trending/she-had-the-biggest-heart-missing-indigenous-transgender-woman-last-seen-in-2019/
https://ktul.com/news/investigations/hundreds-of-indigenous-women-either-missing-or-murdered-in-oklahoma
https://web.archive.org/web/20201125163834/https://www.grandlakenews.com/news/20190517/new-leads-arrest-made-in-disappearance-of-grove-woman
https://charleyproject.org/case/aubrey-dameron
Dameron's mother described her daughter's outfit the last time she had seen her. "Told me she was wearing a black jacket, black skirt, black and black netting hose." Later the description includes that Dameron wore all black, a black leather jacket, and her black boots had heels.
https://people.com/crime/transgender-indigenous-woman-aubrey-dameron-vanished-from-oklahoma-home-in-2019/
https://fox5sandiego.com/news/trending/she-had-the-biggest-heart-missing-indigenous-transgender-woman-last-seen-in-2019/
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
https://charleyproject.org/case/aubrey-dameron
The information and timeline surrounding Dameron's disappearance appear inconsistent to the point that Smith and Fencer were suspicious.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
According to her family, records show that Dameron had Facebook messaged several people asking for a ride before she had left. It is not clear if anyone responded and picked her up. Another source also mentions this, which states that the information comes from the missing person's report.
https://uncovered.com/cases/aubrey-dameron
https://www.kjrh.com/news/local-news/forgotten-faces-where-is-aubrey-dameron
https://charleyproject.org/case/aubrey-dameron
3:42 am (Estimated)
Authorities report that Dameron's cellphone G.P.S. had registered/pinged only 100 yards from her home. The area is close to a mobile home, but nobody reported seeing her. The phone is either shut off or dies at this point. According to the family, the ping was a text message.
https://people.com/crime/transgender-indigenous-woman-aubrey-dameron-vanished-from-oklahoma-home-in-2019/
https://uncovered.com/cases/aubrey-dameron
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/authorities-looking-for-missing-cherokee-since-march-9/article_72e95b5a-ebf0-55bf-bc5a-617ccdc92df6.html
* Captain Gayle Wells, with the Delaware County sheriff's department, confirmed that Dameron had left her purse, medication, and cell phone at home. https://www.facebook.com/160241754040805/photos/capt-gayle-wells-with-the-delaware-county-sheriffs-department/500337220031255/
The cellphone, according to him, had no available minutes. It is unclear if Dameron had multiple cell phones.
https://www.air.tv/watch?v=5qT2dYOeSMKuuOBd93Agxw
https://www.kjrh.com/news/local-news/forgotten-faces-where-is-aubrey-dameron
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
March 11, 2019
Dameron is officially reported missing to Delaware County Sheriff's Office. Dameron had not returned cellphone calls or returned home.
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
The girlfriend of Dameron's brother allegedly filed this report. https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
Some sources report it was Byrd that filed the missing person report. https://whatthemurder.wordpress.com/2020/09/20/missing-and-murdered-indigenous-women-and-girls/
March 12, 2019
Deanette Lynn Rowbotham (40) of Jay, who claimed to be Dameron's friend, called Dameron's ex-boyfriend who had moved to Grand Junction, Colorado.
Rowbotham told the ex-boyfriend that Dameron was being held in Ketchum, Oklahoma, for a drug money debt. Rowbotham asked for money to release Dameron. "if they don't get the money they're gonna take him [her] for a ride," the affidavit states.
Rowbotham offered to include some of her own money to help save Dameron.
*Dameron's once close friend seems to ignore her gender and uses the wrong pronoun. Also, Rowbotham's photo is attached to the profile for Dameron on the Charleyproject.org
.https://web.archive.org/web/20201125163834/https://www.grandlakenews.com/news/20190517/new-leads-arrest-made-in-disappearance-of-grove-woman
https://charleyproject.org/case/aubrey-dameron
March, 13th-18th 2019 (Estimated)
It is unclear who tipped the authorities off first about Rowbotham's claims. It was either Dameron's family or ex-boyfriend who turned the information over.
https://web.archive.org/web/20201125163834/https://www.grandlakenews.com/news/20190517/new-leads-arrest-made-in-disappearance-of-grove-woman
Authorities found that Rowbotham was lying, and she was charged with extortion by Delaware County District Court. Rowbotham had been freed on a personal recognizance bond but with orders to return to court in June.
"At one time she was a close friend," said Delaware County Sheriff's Capt. Gayle Wells refers to Dameron and Rowbotham.
Rowbotham went on to tell D.C.S.O. in an affidavit that Wells filed that she did not think Dameron was missing.
"trying to do whatever to get her man back," and she "really thought Aubrey's parents knew where she was," the affidavit states.
Rowbotham also told investigators that Dameron had no contact with friends or family for five days in December because she and Roawbatham were together.
https://brenmar71.medium.com/where-is-aubrey-dameron-61eec4709a3
https://web.archive.org/web/20201125163834/https://www.grandlakenews.com/news/20190517/new-leads-arrest-made-in-disappearance-of-grove-woman
March 16th- 18th, 2019 (Estimated)
Smith and Fencer were not informed of Dameron's disappearance until around one week after her missing official report. They both felt a slow communication, and it was suspicious how long it took to report her missing.
"The way we found out was a friend of mine had messaged me on social media and asked me if she was missing," said Smith.
Smith had to call the D.C.S.O. to confirm the disappearance herself. After confirmation, authorities insisted she calls Byrd for details.
Smith noticed different details and stories about the disappearance.
Fencer and Smith wonder if their own family had any involvement.
"I want to say no, and believe in the no," Fencer said. "I can't say that without giving [Byrd's information] the benefit of doubt."
https://web.archive.org/web/20201125163834/https://www.grandlakenews.com/news/20190517/new-leads-arrest-made-in-disappearance-of-grove-woman
Fencer went and visited the family home around this timeframe. Dameron's personal belongings are packed up. Byrd tells him Dameron had done it when looking for a nail polish bottle.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
https://brenmar71.medium.com/where-is-aubrey-dameron-61eec4709a3
Smith worried because Dameron had epilepsy, and she had left behind her life-saving medications, her purse, and even her cell phone.
https://www.air.tv/watch?v=5qT2dYOeSMKuuOBd93Agxw
https://www.kjrh.com/news/local-news/forgotten-faces-where-is-aubrey-dameron
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
Dameron's family did not receive the full support from the authorities they deserved.
"It just seemed like no one cared," she said, adding that they felt the authorities blamed Aubrey's "high-risk lifestyle" for her disappearance."
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
Smith then calls the sheriff directly after being concerned about the inconsistent details of the case. The Sherrif was on that day just then being briefed on the case. One week after the report was taken. https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
The family then dispersed missing person flyers all over Grove.
Acts of hate from locals continued after Dameron was gone. Local people ripped down missing person flyers and posted slurs on her social media pages.
At the family silent auction to help raise funds for the searches, very few showed up, and those that did wanted to gossip.
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
March 16, 2019
According to a Grove Sun article republished on Facebook under the missing page with the article title "Developing. DelCo Sheriff's Office looking for missing Grove woman." Dameron had been sighted at a casino.
"He is following up with the staff at Quapaw Casino, specifically, to determine if a possible sighting of Dameron on Saturday, March 16 was accurate.
That tip, Wells said, included Dameron with a heavy set, Native American man with long dark hair."
March 17, 2019 (Estimated)
Fencer words with Lissa Yellow Bird-Chase, founder of Sahnish Scouts - Missing persons of North Dakota. They consider sending help and training to help Dameron's case and others.
Wells confirms Dameron left without her purse, medication, and cell phone, which had no available minutes.
"We have 50 supplemental reports filed. Every lead and tip is thoroughly investigated."
Oklahoma State Bureau Of Investigations was called around this time to assist with the investigation.
https://web.archive.org/web/20201125163834/https://www.grandlakenews.com/news/20190517/new-leads-arrest-made-in-disappearance-of-grove-woman
March 19, 2019
Smith calls D.C.S.O. again and speaks with Wells. Wells tells Smith that Dameron is not a missing person because of her lifestyle.
Later in an interview with Oxygen.com, Wells said he kept the 100-page report of the case within reach of him. Wells explains that the case is hard because of her lifestyle, and Dameron was sexually active and a known drug abuser.
Wells reports they made over 100 follow-up contacts in the case.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
According to a Grove Sun article republished on Facebook under the missing page with the article title "Developing. DelCo Sheriff's Office looking for missing Grove woman." Dameron's phone had been pinged at this point, but it received no responses.
"Detective Brandon Houston said law enforcement is working with surveillance teams at area casinos to examine the footage."
March 20, 2019
Aubrey Dameron has a profile case created on NamUS her case #MP56175
https://www.namus.gov/MissingPersons/Case#/56175
Around this time, there was an unconfirmed sighting of Dameron at a casino owned by Quapaw Nation. https://www.mtv.com/news/3123840/aubrey-dameron-missing-delaware-county-oklahoma/
March 23, 2019
The first search was conducted near the family home with a team of around 30 people. The team was friends, family, strangers, and the Oklahoma City Metro Search and Rescue Team led by Brain Smith. Local law enforcement did not participate. They did not believe there was evidence pointing to Dameron being in those areas.
According to a Grove Sun article republished on Facebook under the missing page with the article title "Developing. DelCo Sheriff's Office looking for missing Grove woman."
"Volunteers are asked to meet at the Grove Civic Center at noon for instructions."
They searched through the heavily wooded area behind Aubrey's house and into the ponds in the surrounding area. https://www.mtv.com/news/3123840/aubrey-dameron-missing-delaware-county-oklahoma/
https://whatthemurder.wordpress.com/2020/09/20/missing-and-murdered-indigenous-women-and-girls/
According to Smith, a bloody sock was found half a mile east away from the family home. It did not seem to have anything else on the sock except the possible blood. Delaware County Sheriff's Office picked it up and submitted it to the Oklahoma State Bureau of Investigation, but no conclusive results have been received about this sock.
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
Missing-Aubrey Dameron From Grove, Oklahoma, Facebook page is created by the family.
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
March 30, 2019
A second search is conducted, and local law enforcement again declines to help. Finally, on one of the searches family asked if they would come out with a canine because they found some red flags. The county responded with, "Why? We are not doing the search."
https://nondoc.com/2020/03/20/bills-to-address-murdered-missing-indigenous-women/
March-April (Estimated)
A judge signed a warrant to search Dameron's Facebook page. No leads were found there or on any other social network apps on her phone.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/authorities-looking-for-missing-cherokee-since-march-9/article_72e95b5a-ebf0-55bf-bc5a-617ccdc92df6.html
April 1, 2019
Cherokee Phoenix paper reports that Dameron's family and authorities were asking the public for help with tips about the disappearance.
The family makes plans to continue the searches and wishes to expand soon. They want to include Oklahoma City Search And Rescue. They also want to work with more teams from around the state. They want to search the Grove and the water and shorelines.
Around this time, there was an unconfirmed sighting of Dameron in Joplin, Missouri.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/authorities-looking-for-missing-cherokee-since-march-9/article_72e95b5a-ebf0-55bf-bc5a-617ccdc92df6.html
May 7, 2019
Delaware County Sheriff's Office asks the public for help with Dameron. Deputies and volunteers have searched near northwest Grove where the family home was.
A complete search of a three-acre property plus its surrounding area was done, but nothing was found.
Thirty people have been interviewed, and tips have been followed. https://www.newson6.com/story/5e35c6cf2f69d76f620132e9/delaware-co-deputies-searching-for-woman-missing-since-march
May 10, 2019
Wells gives a quote to MTV.com
"Because of her high-risk lifestyle, there [are] lots of possibilities about what happened or where she is,"
Wells pointed to her gender identity and history of drug use.
"So, I mean, with [the] worst-case scenario in mind, they've searched lots of places."
In the same interview, he reveals that law enforcement found text exchanged between Dameron had "various men" that night. Wells did not explain further. https://www.mtv.com/news/3123840/aubrey-dameron-missing-delaware-county-oklahoma/
May 2019 (Memorial Day Weekend Estimated) - November 2019
A tip leads to a shallow grave beside a black leather jacket near Kenwood. The results were inconclusive. This search lasted a week-long and included teams from Oklahoma City, Canines from Louisiana, Texas, and Arkansas.
Smith and Fencer wonder if the correct D.N.A. for Dameron was given.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
After this search, most communication with D.C.S.O. stopped.
May 2019 (Estimated)
A login into Dameron's MeetMe app happens around this time. The I.P. pinged to an office in Irving, Texas. https://www.mtv.com/news/3123840/aubrey-dameron-missing-delaware-county-oklahoma/
November 1- 21st, 2019
The family gets help through their social media. For example, crossroads K9 S.A.R. in Louisiana helped them search with dogs at the family home. This search time also included volunteers and law enforcement officers.
All four specially trained dogs hit a cadaver scent on a tarp in the shed in the backyard. D.C.S.O. sent the tarp in December to a lab in Cherokee county.
Neither the family nor Sherrif heard back about the results. https://nondoc.com/2020/03/20/bills-to-address-murdered-missing-indigenous-women/
They also hit on a scent nearby at the pond on private property off 280 roads.
November 21, 2019
Authorities go back to the pond and search it, but very little is found. Wells says an old flashlight, an old fishing reel, and a plastic bag. They placed lines vertically and horizontally in the water and used divers and rakes.
Authorities appealed to the public again for leads saying their leads are exhausted now.
https://www.koamnewsnow.com/aubrey-dameron-search-2/
https://www.koamnewsnow.com/aubrey-dameron-search-2/
https://ktul.com/news/investigations/hundreds-of-indigenous-women-either-missing-or-murdered-in-oklahoma
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
https://www.latimes.com/world-nation/story/2020-01-31/murdered-missing-native-american-women
2019 (Estimated)
Savanna's Act, introduced by North Dakota Dem Senator Heidi Heitkamp, hopes to clarify the jurisdictional boundaries between tribal, federal, and state agencies. The bill was stalled in by one republican for unknown reasons. This bill would have helped many women like Dameron.
2019-Current
The organization M.M.I.W.U.S.A. has helped with conducting searches and raising awareness. Deborah Maytubee Shipman, founder and director of the organization, is often regarded as the biggest supporter of Dameron's case. They have assisted with funds for searches and private investigators.
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
January 31, 2020
Dameron's family becomes estranged from each other around or before this time.
Smith and Fencer create a local group for M.M.I.W. It is called NOISE for Northeast Oklahoma Indigenous Safety and Education.
Cherokee Nation Officials pay for a billboard in the Tulsa area to help bring in tips.
https://www.latimes.com/world-nation/story/2020-01-31/murdered-missing-native-american-women
February 14, 2020
Captain Wells confirms that there had many numerous sightings of Dameron in casinos. In the Missouri and Oklahoma area. Some retail stores also, but all the sights turned out to be nothing.
March 9, 2020
Candlelight vigil for Dameron at Equality Center in Downtown Tulsa at 6:30 pm.
https://ktul.com/news/local/vigil-for-missing-transgender-woman
2020 (Estimated)
McGirt V. Oklahoma Ruling passes, and the case has been assumed over to the F.B.I.
January 29, 2021 (Estimated)
Daniel Pae, an Oklahoma representative, filed a bill to create "Aubrey's Alert." It was made to help send alerts for missing adults within Cherokee Nation. https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/state-rep-introduces-aubrey-alert-bill/article_0a83203e-4da3-5f63-83e0-e9a189408dd3.html
March 2021 (Estimated)
"Aubrey's Alert" was renamed "Kasey Alert" Kasey is another Cherokee native. Dameron's family speculated that the change was due to Dameron's transgender identity.
"Today, we received word that the Aubrey Alert will need a name change before it can move forward from the open session. Due to Aubrey being transgender in a red state, multiple ELECTED OFFICIALS have stated they will not support the bill due to it being named after Aubrey Dameron. We are deeply saddened by this update but will continue to search for Aubrey and raised awareness when we are given the opportunity. Wado!"
Read the Act: https://legiscan.com/OK/text/HB1790/id/2248564
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/aubrey-bill-renamed-kasey-awaits-house-vote/article_fd4e3e58-8357-11eb-9d89-1be67face91b.html
April 2021 (Estimated)
Aubrey/Kasey Alert bill was stalled in the house. https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/kasey-alert-measure-stalls-in-oklahoma-house/article_7552ba58-9c82-11eb-8536-471c64d66b4c.html
June 25, 2021
Oxygen.com writes an article about Dameron. https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
November 18, 2021 (Estimated)
NewsNation crew manages to speak with Jennifer Byrd Dameron's mother, who up until this point had not spoken with camera crews. Byrd was in one town over from the Grove.
"You're the first camera crew I'm ever speaking to," Byrd expresses her opinion that her daughter is dead. "I felt my child pass. A year ago." "A mother and a child has a bond. And I felt it. I hit the floor."
Byrd also said her family had not received help from investigators.
Oklahoma State Bureau Of Investigation. The local sheriff and F.B.I. have not returned phone calls to the press.
https://fox5sandiego.com/news/trending/she-had-the-biggest-heart-missing-indigenous-transgender-woman-last-seen-in-2019/
November 2020 (Estimated)
Reviewing Dameron's case, Captain Gayle Wells retired, and this was his last case. In an interview with Oxygen.com, Wells makes this remark about her case.
"This was the last case I ever reviewed. I kept it in my office, within reach," he said. "What made this case unique was her lifestyle. Not only was she transgender and very sexually active, but she was also a known drug abuser."
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
2021 (Estimated)
Dameron has her D.N.A. profile in the databases for O.S.B.I., the National Crime Information Center, and National Missing and Unidentified Persons System. https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
September 6, 2021
N.B.C. News reported that they confirmed with The Delaware County Sheriff's Office that the agency initially investigated Dameron's case. However, the agency referred questions to the F.B.I. The F.B.I. did not respond to questions from Dateline. https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
September 13, 2021
It is confirmed in the Cherokeephoneix.org article that the Oklahoma State Bureau Of Investigation assigned an investigator to the case.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
October 5, 2021
Smith reports that the case still receives tips. https://www.newson6.com/story/615cc703ac113d15fe37d37d/advocates-raise-awareness-about-high-number-of-missing-persons-cases-in-oklahoma
November 3, 2021
Aubrey's case is featured in People's Magazine.
https://people.com/crime/transgender-indigenous-woman-aubrey-dameron-vanished-from-oklahoma-home-in-2019/
Time Frames Unknown
Several leads of sightings were made, but all fell through.
https://www.kjrh.com/news/local-news/forgotten-faces-where-is-aubrey-dameron
January 20, 2022
Delaware County Sheriff's Office launches new investigative until with hopes of solving cold cases. Dameron's case is on this list to be investigated by "The Reserve Cold case Investigation Unit" which comprises retired and experienced law enforcement personnel. The program is volunteer-based and is led by Sheriff James Beck. https://www.fourstateshomepage.com/news/delaware-county-sheriff-launches-cold-case-unit/
Aubrey Dameron
Aubrey Dameron had the nickname Shorty. However, as featured on her Facebook account, Dameron used other versions of her name, such as Audreaunna Pierson. The names are often spelled in different ways. Also listed on her Facebook was the nickname ¥Ashontia¥
https://people.com/crime/transgender-indigenous-woman-aubrey-dameron-vanished-from-oklahoma-home-in-2019/
https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123
Dameron has been deadnamed several times without justification for using her old name. Dameron does not seem to use her deadname after the transition.
https://www.newson6.com/story/5e35c6cf2f69d76f620132e9/delaware-co-deputies-searching-for-woman-missing-since-march
https://www.4029tv.com/article/deputies-search-help-finding-missing-oklahoma-woman/26992790#
https://ktul.com/news/local/delaware-county-searching-for-missing-woman?fbclid=IwAR0YrmdWdkXFpP9sj7b_6uvWBycOKX2VuqogYqNMV0QkyEIJOsK6vUYL39w
Dameron was born October 22, 1993, and is a Cherokee Nation citizen. Dameron was 25 years old when she went missing.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
https://www.kjrh.com/news/local-news/forgotten-faces-where-is-aubrey-dameron
(Traditionally, discussing the details around transitioning is considered rude. However, this has been a focal point in Dameron's case, and the details could be essential to solving her case. In addition, Dameron herself has been public about her transition.)
Dameron was a two-spirit and began her transition sometime in junior high or high school. Dameron attended Grove High from 2009-2012, according to her Facebook.
Dameron said she was 14, maybe when she started her journey into coming out as different. She had known who she was since she was a little kid but did not know the labels or terms. https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123/videos/10208744583466298
The first person Dameron came out to was her Grandmother, who accepted her but had old-fashioned ideas about relationships and love. Then she came out to the rest of the family, but it was hard. "They took it pretty hard, and I felt like I was all alone." https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123/videos/10208744583466298
Unfortunately, this strained her relationship with her father as he started to distance himself from Dameron when she first came out as gay and then later two-spirit. https://brenmar71.medium.com/where-is-aubrey-dameron-61eec4709a3
Dameron's father went outside to cry and came back thirty minutes later and said, " You're my kid, and always love you; you're still alive that's what matters."https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123/videos/10208744583466298
Dameron also had a problematic relationship with her mother, Jennifer Byrd, also known as Jen Byrd, or possibly Alice. The relationship slowly evolved over the years to the point where they talked often. https://www.air.tv/watch?v=5qT2dYOeSMKuuOBd93Agxw
(Interview with Dameron's Mother) https://www.newsnationnow.com/missing/missing-indigenous-transgender-woman-last-seen-in-2019-2/?utm_campaign=socialflow&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=referral&fbclid=IwAR0MvOIWW9Vou-1XA7ra27K5s69weDtAMflpJx4vc0K8nJwlCFpkXO_l1Uo
"My mother and I, it was kind of very hard for us." Dameron describes how the process of her mother's acceptance took a few years and counseling, but "now she loves me as her daughter, and she wouldn't have me any other way." https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123/videos/10208744583466298
Dameron had strong relationships with her Aunt Pat Smith and Uncle Christian Fencer. https://brenmar71.medium.com/where-is-aubrey-dameron-61eec4709a3
Fencer is gay and only six months apart in age from Dameron. The two shared a close bond and often shared similar life experiences.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
https://www.kjrh.com/news/local-news/forgotten-faces-where-is-aubrey-dameron
Pat Smith has children not much older than Fencer and Dameron, so it seems Smith had taken on a motherly role to the two. Smith shared fond memories of Dameron and the family in the car singing.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
Dameron has a brother, Tommy, and numerous cousins with whom she took photos. Sometimes she would pose all the younger kids and help them smile for the camera. Dameron lists several people as her siblings, but they may have been chosen family, and it is not confirmed if the listed people are relatives by blood. -Dameron's F.B.
Unfortunately, Dameron's two-spirited nature made her the target of cruel kids and adults who bullied her for it. Christian Fencer, Dameron's Uncle, was also bullied along with her. Fencer describes children as calling them slurs, chasing them, and throwing rocks.https://brenmar71.medium.com/where-is-aubrey-dameron-61eec4709a3
It would be easy for anyone else to fight their bullies back, but Dameron was so kind and loving that her response was to pray for them.
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/authorities-looking-for-missing-cherokee-since-march-9/article_72e95b5a-ebf0-55bf-bc5a-617ccdc92df6.html
https://people.com/crime/transgender-indigenous-woman-aubrey-dameron-vanished-from-oklahoma-home-in-2019/
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
https://fox5sandiego.com/news/trending/she-had-the-biggest-heart-missing-indigenous-transgender-woman-last-seen-in-2019/
Praying did not stop them from forcing her into an alternative school because her transition "was a distraction" to her classmates.
https://www.oxygen.com/crime-news/case-of-aubrey-dameron-missing-transgender-woman-highlights-dangers-to-indigenous
Dameron describes coming out publicly and how some people did not believe she was born with a soul of women. She decided to be public in the first place because she wanted to find a soul mate and that soul mate to see her for what she had within her. The school employees and some students would harass and threaten her if she did not comply with their ideals. Eventually, she gave up her library school job because they would not let her be herself. https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123/videos/10208744583466298
The church was similar; she describes being chased out by several boys with a crowbar and 2x4 board because she was not allowed to be who she was at church. Dameron did not stop going to church, and she continued to go to that church for five more years. https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123/videos/10208744583466298
According to a Grove Sun article republished on Facebook under the missing page with the article title "Developing. DelCo Sheriff's Office looking for missing Grove woman." Fencer stated that in the past, Dameron had "attended youth ministries in Grove, including one at Cornerstone Church." (It is unclear if this is the church Dameron was bullied at. Please do not send hate or allegations to this church)
Every step of Dameron's transition had to be worked for, even down to the proper medications she needed, but it was worth it to be herself! https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123/videos/10208744583466298
Dameron enjoyed living authentically and encouraged others to be themselves as well. One family member reported that she loved celebrating and attending PRIDE events. https://www.out.com/news/2019/6/07/family-missing-indigenous-trans-woman-wont-stop-searching
On her Facebook lives, Dameron reaches out to others going through similar things and offers comfort.
When Dameron disappeared, her body was not fully transitioned. This made her family wonder if this was why she went missing. Perhaps a hate crime. Dameron mentioned briefly during Facebook lives how she worried her body might cause difficulties in her search for love but knew that whomever she fell in love with loved her for what she already had to give and whatever else she might have to give later. https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123/videos/10208744583466298
One of the reasons Dameron wanted to be public about her transition was because of love. She was interested in old-fashioned men with Christian ideals that could see the beautiful woman that she was. https://www.facebook.com/AubreyACDC123/videos/10208744583466298
Dameron believed in an all-loving God and was dedicated to Christianity. . "call me imaginative, but I suppose you could say I have strong Faith in my Savior!" -Dameron's F.B. descriptions.
Rumors swirled that Dameron perhaps had suicidal ideals when she disappeared, but her family quickly stopped the rumors by pointing out how untrue it was. According to a Grove Sun article republished on Facebook under the missing page with the article title "Developing. DelCo Sheriff's Office looking for missing Grove woman."
"She would not harm herself," Fencer said. "She is very strong in every sense of the word. She is always lifting people up."
Dameron has had several jobs working in Highschool as well. Clothes and More 2011, Izonu as maintenance April 2011, and McDonald's in the Grove May '09 - Jan 2010. -Dameron's Facebook
Dameron extended her education at Grove Beauty College on February 27, 2014-15, and NEO A&M on August 17, 2012-13, for nursing and possibly teaching. - Dameron's Facebook
According to a Grove Sun article republished on Facebook under the missing page with the article title "Developing. DelCo Sheriff's Office looking for missing Grove woman." Fencer said the McDonald job was more recent and confirmed that Dameron was a trained beautician from Grove Beauty College.
Dameron lists the places she has lived as Colcord, Oklahoma, Vinita, Oklahoma (moved 2005), Noel, Missouri (moved 2003 and Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. Dameron also has several checked-in locations around Oklahoma and some of Missouri- Dameron's Facebook.
Dameron had epilepsy and relied on medications for them and other health concerns for which she needed medications.
Dameron was a tall woman, sometimes described as 5'10 or six-foot-tall, and she weighed between 150-170lbs with an overall slim build.
https://www.4029tv.com/article/deputies-search-help-finding-missing-oklahoma-woman/26992790#
https://charleyproject.org/case/aubrey-dameron
Dameron has three known tattoos, pierced ears, and breast implants. Dameron has a triquetra tattoo on the upper back near the neck area. The word "Shorty" and circle design on her upper left arm at the shoulder. Lastly, two small swirly designed tattoos on each hip. https://charleyproject.org/case/aubrey-dameron
Dameron has brown eyes and brown hair.
https://www.nbcnews.com/dateline/aunt-missing-native-american-transgender-woman-aubrey-dameron-believes-she-n1278575
https://www.namus.gov/MissingPersons/Case#/56175
Dameron has a bubbly positive, and compassionate personality. Often she would welcome the outcast and try to know them.
https://people.com/crime/transgender-indigenous-woman-aubrey-dameron-vanished-from-oklahoma-home-in-2019/
https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
Dameron also dreamed of being a singer and performer, but acting classes had to be set aside because of poverty. Instead, she would enjoy music and youtube videos about these topics.
https://people.com/crime/transgender-indigenous-woman-aubrey-dameron-vanished-from-oklahoma-home-in-2019/
https://www.mtv.com/news/3123840/aubrey-dameron-missing-delaware-county-oklahoma/
The family has consistently said that it was unlike Dameron not to have contact with her family.
https://people.com/crime/transgender-indigenous-woman-aubrey-dameron-vanished-from-oklahoma-home-in-2019/
However, leading up to her disappearance, Dameron was not reaching out as much.
"Instead of hearing from her every day or every other day, it come to be every few weeks," he said. "It was just it was very strange." - Fencer https://www.cherokeephoenix.org/news/search-for-cherokee-nation-citizen-aubrey-dameron-continues-2-years-later/article_e9d6a74c-14b7-11ec-aba8-93f2ad79b059.html
Dameron's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/BkyNM_Hh3YK/
Dameron's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheAubrey411
Dameron's Family pages: https://www.facebook.com/AubreyDameron
https://www.facebook.com/MissingAubreyDameron
Dameron's Snap? This may or may not be Dameron's: aubrey_damron
In conclusion, the vanishing of Aubrey Dameron remains a mystery, but it should not be. Solve this case by sharing her story and her missing flyers. Go to the family page and share their information, especially if you are in the Missouri and Oklahoma areas. Please consider sharing a relevant tip if you have one.
Cherokee Marshals
918-207-3800
O.S.B.I. 800-522-8017
Tips@OSBI.OK.GOV
F.B.I. 918-664-3300
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