Mother's day is hard for a lot of people and that's men and women alike. I post a post like this every year not to be a downer but to try and bring awareness to the struggles that come from a day that's a bit insensitive to the pain that so many people feel on this day. The massive marketing and humblebragging that goes on social media can be so heartbreaking to some.
I want you to be aware so that you can comfort those are in hurting or to bring you validation about your situation. To remind you that you are not alone.
Give flowers, chocolates, books, gifts, cards, hugs, love or even just a simple nod and message on FB to those who have lost, never had or are broken. They need it and so do you. Reaching out to connect with our fellow humans is much better than bragging. I'm not saying don't be proud or thankful for what you have but just be understanding! Many of us are avoiding church, outings, and activities to not have to hear a cheerful "Happy Mother's Day".
My heart and love are going to be with all of you struggling with this day and I hope your heart will also be with me.
Infertility
Parent Loss
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Single Mother's
Strained and Broken relationships
Those wanting to build families but are single
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Hi Merry! I once wrote a poem called "This Is Not Mother's Day" for those of us who had abusive, absent or emotionally manipulative mothers...those of us who are childless (by choice or having no choice about it)...those who desperately wanted a mother to love and didn't or couldn't. I made the mistake of posting it on a quilter's chat board and boy did I get Interknifed!! Ungrateful, unnatural, and unworthy were the nicest things some people said. None of whom, of course, knew anything about me and what I'd been through. It's hard enough not having kids and going to church where all the moms are given flowers and clapped for..and you are given a sympathy prize of a knot of ribbon. Okay, so I chose not to have children, but it was an informed and well-founded choice made with my husband--I don't think I deserve to be a moral leper. What's worse is when it is other women who come down so hard on women who don't fit what they perceive as "the right pattern."
ReplyDeleteI may have found this comment nearly a year later but as mother's day closes in on us again I wanted to send my love and hugs if you wanted them. Your poem sounds beautiful! Those women sound like they've not had any hardships... which I'm glad for but it does shorten their eyesight for loving people in this world it seems. :( I respect you and your choice and the feelings you have! Especially on this day! There are so many woman out here hurting I don't understand why we can't help each other instead of tear down.
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